You want more out of yourself, and your life.
You want to use your skills to their fullest extent, in the service of what matters most to you.
You often dream of leaving your unique mark on the world — of taking risks, feeling more alive and having no regrets.
But no matter how hard you try, there’s always one person standing in the way — you.
You feel blocked by fear, self-doubt, perfectionism and self-criticism — the repetitive voice inside your head that asks, “Who do you think you are?”
It’s the same cycle — you try and set goals and take action, and then the voice bullies you back into your comfort zone.
You avoid, distract and procrastinate — keeping yourself stuck and frustrated.
You often wonder:
If I want change so badly, why can’t I just suck it up and do it?
How can I move forward if I can’t get rid of fear and self-doubt?
I know how you feel. I asked those same questions for years while I avoided engaging in the skill I loved most — writing.
The death of a close loved one gave me a moment of clarity — life is short, and I needed to find a real way to get beyond my blocks and do what’s meaningful.
I read every self-development and psychology book I could get my hands on. I went to yoga, tried meditation, life planning and goal setting. I tried forcing myself into action, only to end up stuck again.
I finally stumbled on a path — a life philosophy that actually worked for me, and I started to break through those blocks.
The core of that philosophy is this counter-intuitive truth:
You don’t have to get rid of fear and self-doubt before taking action toward what is most meaningful.
I realized my fear, anxiety, self-doubt, limiting beliefs were not the problem — The way I was responding to it was.
To get unstuck, I needed to change the way I responded to painful thoughts, emotions and sensations. I needed to change my relationship with them.
I also learned that my pain has an important purpose — it points to what I care about the most.
My philosophy is rooted in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) — an evidence-based psychological intervention that focuses on mindfulness and acceptance of painful inner experiences paired with a commitment to values-based action.
I have also been influenced by Buddhism and humanistic psychology, mindfulness and self-compassion practice.
The purpose of this blog is to share my knowledge and experience with you, to help you get unstuck — to get beyond your blocks and start doing what matters.
This isn’t just another self-help blog claiming to help you “eliminate negative beliefs” or “think positive.” This is a blog that will:
- Encourage you to dig deep to uncover what matters most — your personal values
- Provide you with tools to help you become more willing to feel and have uncomfortable feelings and thoughts
- Help you set values-centered goals and take committed action
- Clear mental clutter and create habits that work for you
- Share my own personal experience so you know you’re not alone
If you’re serious about getting beyond your blocks and would like someone to guide you on your journey, enter your email in the box below.
You’ll receive my free “Get Unstuck” Ultimate Reading List along with helpful insights to help you break through troublesome inner barriers like fear, self-doubt, perfectionism and more — so you can get out of your own way and start living a more meaningful, vital life.
Putting these tools into practice won’t be easy, but I can assure you, it will be worth it.